Skin wigs & authenticity.


I think when she grows up Jenny will be a conspiracy theorist – to her already, at the age of 5, things are not what they seem. In a recent conversation with her about politics – she has some very strong opinions – she decided that the current president of South Africa is wearing a skin wig. What on earth is a skin wig?? Apparently, it is a complete disguise for your whole body that makes you look totally different that you really are. According to Jenny you can even get a voice wig too that lets you have a totally different voice.

It got me to thinking that there are many of us walking around with skin wigs – appearing to be someone we are not. The Together Mom who has everything under control, the happily marrieds who are fighting the bit out at home, the good Christian who hide her struggles. When we meet each other, and interact with each other wearing skin wigs, we never get to meet the real person – we don’t get see the struggles but then we also don’t get to see the victories and the healing also. By wearing skin wigs we deny each other and ourselves the chance to grow and learn together, to be a community with real intimacy and authentic connections.

Skin wigs don’t stop God seeing who we really are:

Psalm 139: 13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

God created your inmost being – the person you are – there is no need to hide that from Him – He sees the good, the bad and the ugly. A skin wig will not help that – yet He still says you are wonderfully made. It is when we deal with who we really are that God is able to use us in community to help one another:

Isaiah 61: 1 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, 2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, 3 and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of his splendor. 4 They will rebuild the ancient ruins and restore the places long devastated; they will renew the ruined cities that have been devastated for generations.

I don’t know about you but skin wigs are hard work – they are itchy and uncomfortable. It can be easy to hide behind them but a real relief to take them off. Are you wearing a skin wig today? Will you brave taking it off to be authentic before God and one another?

Lord, help me to take off anything that masks who I really am – help me to be authentic and help me when it hurts to be so vulnerable. May the work you do in my life be evident and be of help to others so that they too can find healing in you.

4 Replies to “Skin wigs & authenticity.”

  1. A skin wig…interesting! I’ll take that…it’s the story of my life…but a 20-year-old forced me to make myself vulnerable and share with the world that he had started a cancer journey. About that he said…”if you do that (not tell), people won’t know how to support us and pray for us”. God has taken him home, but I too have all these memories of my son the teacher and me…the learner. Thanks, I enjoyed reading this.

  2. Yep skin wigs. is one of my struggles finding those who will lay their SW down… and for these same people that want to put SW on us because it is easier for them to relate…. to be open and transparent with those with thick SW of their own making is tiring … it is an effort but SO worth it… the struggle is real…

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