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I blame my big brother for my love of chocolate – apparently when I was a few hours old he stuck a chocolate digestive biscuit in my mouth as I sounded hungry. So any chocolate related weight gain must be Big Bro’s fault….
I have been thinking a lot lately about blame – there is such an easy tendency to blame other people for our problems and for our wrong choices. Where do we draw the line at and acknowledge our own faults and sin choices?
It is our in built sin nature that points fingers to other people – Adam and Eve did it. Adam straight away said it was the women you made God who made me eat the fruit – in one fell swoop blamed both Eve and God Himself. Eve straight away blamed the serpent.
Genesis 3: 9-13 But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” 12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” 13 Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
I remember a teacher in primary school when there was a fight or disagreement would get each party to tell their side of the story, but they had to start the story with ‘I did…’ or ‘I said….’ It was so hard to figure out how to blame someone that way!
It can be hard to accept our responsibility for our sin and our mess ups. Often a lot of what we do we justify by the things people have done to us. I don’t want to minimize the horrible things people have done to each other – yes that does have an effect, it does create a reaction in us (God sees that hurt and it does matter to Him) – but where do I draw the line in my ownership of my wrong choices? If the blame is always passed then the motivation to change can be lost in being the one sinned against, rather than realizing that I’m also one who sins.
So I ask today:
Psalm 139. 23-24 Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. 24 See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
I am also mindful that Jesus once drew the line – for the women caught in adultery – and it was a line of grace and forgiveness.
Help me Lord to take responsibility for my wrong choices, and the things I do that sin against you. Thank you Lord for your forgiveness and grace.