I love people watching. Yesterday I happened to be in our local mall on two occasions and both times I observed a lady working at the hairdressers standing at her shop door staring (possibly glaring) at the lady working across the mall at a clothing shop. Both times she was busy watching whatever was going on in the shop. My imagination perhaps ran away with me – was she wishing she worked in that shop, was she watching her very pregnant friend working in the clothing shop for first signs of labour, was she watching a skirt she wanted to buy to make sure no one bought first, was she a spy from the clothe shop owner to make sure the other lady was doing her job?
Whatever was happening the lady in the hairdresser was really busy watching the other shop and was totally oblivious to what was going on in her own shop.
It made me ask myself how much of my time do I spend looking at what other people are doing and being involved in their stuff – do I do it to the point that I neglect or that I’m ungrateful for my responsibilities or life. They say the grass is always greener – perhaps this hairdresser has a longing to work in a fashion store. But she was missing out on all that was going on in her shop. Especially when it come it marriage and parenting it is so tempting to focus on what is happening in other peoples’ lives.
It reminds me of the parable of the talents:
Matthew 25:14-30 “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his property to them. 15 To one he gave five talents of money, to another two talents, and to another one talent, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received the five talents went at once and put his money to work and gained five more. 17 So also, the one with the two talents gained two more. 18 But the man who had received the one talent went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money. 19 “After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them.
I wonder ff the guys with the talents discussed their plans together – I think if I had been one of them I would have spent a good deal of time trying to find out the other guys’ plans – perhaps even spying on them,
How much time do I waste focused on what other people are up to instead of dealing with my responsibilities?
Lord, the grass is often greener looking and more interesting at my neighbours. Help me Lord to look after the grass you have given me and to be thankful for it.