Baby Doom & Gloom

I don’t know what it is but as soon as people find out that I am pregnant they want to tell me terrible birth stories and warn me about all sorts of TRAGIC accidents that happened to pregnant women who didn’t heed their advice. I’m thinking of collecting the stories and awarding a price to the most gruesome at the end! I know it is good to be prepared for difficult situations – I am not naive – I know things can go wrong but really surely there is a limit to the number of disastrous birth and pregnancy stories a person needs to hear. If I listen to all the advice I will be sacred to go out of the house, to climb anything, to carry anything or to eat anything – sneezing may even be off-limits! Even the 20 week scan brings a bit fear after finding out what a friend of a friend of friend found out in their scan. Maybe if I tell my well meaning story tellers that they are in line for a prize for the most scary birth story it might keep them quiet?

My experiences over the past few weeks have challenged me as to how I speak to others as well. Do I say things that will build people up or things that will instil fear? Is Jesus in my speech?

Ephesians 4:29  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

This doesn’t mean that we have to avoid speaking the truth, but that we have a responsibility to the hearers of our words – do they draw people closer to God, to the lift people up?

Thankfully amongst all the advice there is One Voice who speaks more sensibly– if I will listen to Him. He speaks words of comfort and words that chase fear. I know that whatever happens, whatever type of birth I have or whatever is found in a scan He is in control.

Colossians 1:16-17  For by him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or authorities; all things were created by him and for him.  17  He is before all things, and in him all things hold together.

Yes, bad things do happen but I can know and trust  God to carry me through whatever lies ahead:

Isaiah 46:3-4  “Listen to me, O house of Jacob, all you who remain of the house of Israel, you whom I have upheld since you were conceived, and have carried since your birth.  4  Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.

Lord, help me to keep letting Your voice be the one to fill me head and my heart.

Beholding Glory

10 Replies to “Baby Doom & Gloom”

  1. I heard someone do the same thing this week to my sister who is fighting breast cancer with mets to the bone. This person was telling her about all the people who died and what kind of symptoms they had! 😦 It seems the enemy wants to bombard us with the negative, and it gets challenging to practice Phil. 4:6&7, but we can do it with God’s help as it says only a few verses down in Phil.4:13! 🙂 Praying you’ll have a great weekend and be able to enjoy the pregnancy as you rest in Him!

  2. I’ve had a few of those kinds of comments in my day. It does make me more aware of my words to others.

    God’s voice is treasured. I’m praying along with you!


  3. Will you award a prize for the best story too. Cos I only had the BESTEST pregnancies, my births were quick and easy (Jared 1 hour approx and Josh 20 mins). I had BIG happy baby boys.

    Follow your gut, you’re going to have a HAPPY healthy baby too 🙂

    I’m SO excited to see your little bouncing baby with a head full of hair ;o)

    Love your blog always 🙂

  4. Hi Tracey – the best advice I ever got when pregnant was – you’re the mom, you’ll know best and follow what you feel. Some people think they are helping when they are in fact hindering. I go the opposite way, in fear of offending or saying the wrong thing, I say nothing or avoid the topic and then get into trouble for not being interested. Oi Vey! Can’t win. Enjoy EVERY moment of your pregancy, it only last so long! Blessings and have a awesome week – oh and dont go swimming at fish hoek! 🙂
    God bless

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