Pink or Blue??


I have a bit of a dilemma – not a life or death one – more of a ‘is it boy or is it a girl one’. You see we are expecting our first baby in March and amongst all the excitement there is one question that keeps rearing its head. ‘Do you know if it is a boy or a girl yet?’ On this one I’m kind of stuck between two cultures – my South African friends all expect me to find out and tell the world before the birth. My Northern Irish friends all seem to favour the wait for the surprise approach. I haven’t decided yet which way I am leaning – hubby doesn’t seem to mind either way. I still have a couple of weeks yet before the next scan to decide, and who knows maybe baby will be modest and not let us know?

What are the benefits of knowing – it helps in picking names, in buying the appropriate coloured clothing. In not knowing the major benefit seems to be the fun of the surprise. Sometimes knowing feels like a good thing and other times having a bit of mystery seems more fun.  I really don’t know which way I will jump but what I know for sure is that this baby is being hand-knit and woven together and is known by God.

Psalms 139:13-16  For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  14  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  15  My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,  16  your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

This time of waiting is both exciting and frankly a bit scary – so many things to think about, so many uncertainties. But thankfully none of this is a surprise to God, He already has the life of this little one mapped out and ordained. So all I can do is wait and trust Him for what lies ahead and ask Him to help us be good parents to whomever He has planned for us. I know that He is trustworthy and has good plans for us.

Jeremiah 29:11  For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Sometimes it is not what you know by Who you know!

6 Replies to “Pink or Blue??”

  1. Congratulations. How exciting for you! Either way you make the decision will be fine. Learn to trust your instincts as a mother.

    I never knew the sex of my kids. Loved the surprise of the first one, not knowing – what a wonderful high. But for organization sake, wished I knew on the other two.

    My daughter waited and didn’t find out for the first one but when she found out the second one was actually twins – she needed to know just to get a sense of control over the situation. Twin boys were born in July.

    So either way. Do what works best for you and your family.

  2. Hi Tracey – enjoy every moment and when in doubt leave out. When you KNOW whether you want to know or not then take action. My first, I wanted a surprise, the second, for practicality I wanted to know.
    God bless

  3. Congratulations! I’m in the last eleven weeks waiting for my fourth little one. We’ve never found out…in some ways it takes away from the mystery that is so beautifully laid out in the psalm you quoted (one of my favorites. OK. My very favorite.)

    I have lots of opinions, but so do we all, and the only opinion that really counts is yours. 🙂

  4. Congratulations Tracey and amen to all you say. Apart from salvation children are the greatest gift that God gives us. A very exciting time. Enjoy it.

  5. Shreeeeeeek — wonderful, joyful news Tracey! I didn’t know God while I was pregnant with either of my children, but now when I read psalm 139 I automatically think of the miracles of their births — such beauty there.

    We found out with our first and not for our second, which is a little odd, I know. I need to know if I was having a boy so I could prepare the first time around, because I was a little wigged by the thought of a boy baby. Now I have two young men…and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

  6. Wow! Congratulations. Thanks for visiting. I vote for finding out. My wife and I did, and it really helped in getting ready for our son, especially in the “what to name him department”. We don’t argue much, but naming our son involved some “intense fellowship” as our pastor’s wife likes to call it.

    We’ll be praying for you and your growing family.

    God bless!

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