I’m not great at fixing things. I don’t always have the patience to do a good job. This week a cycle of Grief Share finished at the church – lives have be touched, people have been comforted in the grief, but Oh how I wish I could tap them on the head on the way out the door and say you have been fixed, no more grieving for you. But grief is not an easily containable and controllable emotion – you think you have it tamed and then someday it bites you when you least expect it.
While not everyone I know has lost someone in tragic circumstances, I am discovering that most people have some hurt or burden that they are bearing – a broken relationship, abuse, guilt over a mistake – we are all bruised in some way – by others or by our own choices. We have just become experts in hiding it, like hiding away our wounds so that no one can bump them or make them worse.
One of my favourite passages is the declaration of Jesus’ work in Isaiah:
Isaiah 61:1-3 The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on me, because the LORD has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the broken-hearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners
I love that one of Jesus’ missions is to bind up the broken hearted – there is no mention of who is to blame for the heart break – if it is self inflicted, by others or just by being bumped around in a fallen world. He wraps firmly the broken heart – this word for broken heart can also be the burst heart, the crushed, the in pieces.
One of the ways that I have discovered that Jesus does this is through the help of others. I have found that there is healing in sharing our hurts and brokenness with others. By sitting together and tenderly sharing our stories there is a binding that happens that helps heal us. I think James meant something similar:
James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.
Somehow through sharing there is healing. God has put us in a community of believers. If we are vulnerable enough to share our weaknesses and hurts, to bear one another up, then we can be a community healing and binding hearts. Too often we tried to heal our hurts on our own and to fix things ourselves, but God didn’t design us that way. Are you willing to share your heart and bear another’s burden? God is in the business of binding up the broken hearted and that is Family business in which I think I can find a place.